0073 – 5 Easy Tips to Add Romance to Your Relationship

How do we create ‘romance’ for our significant other? Is it always magic, or can you do it on purpose?

Teaser Bullets

by the end of this episode you’ll learn:

  • What is ‘romance’?
  • Is romance overrated…dead?
  • Why romance is important
  • How do you create a romantic scene for your partner?
  • Why women should initiate romance
  • 5 quick tips on how to build intimacy and romance

Describe the problem

Flowers, candles, or an open and honest conversation from the heart; all of these gestures are seen as romantic by some, and cliche by others. What’s the big deal with romance in relationships? Is it a relic of a time passed, or a key ingredient of eternal happiness? Or is it really capitalism disguised as a muscular guy on a book cover who can’t seem to button the top 5 buttons on his shirt….ever? We’ll find out after this break.

Segment #1

  • What is ‘romance’?
    • ForBetterOrWhat |
      • On a more realistic note, Wikipedia tells us that the word romance “implies an expression of one’s love, or one’s deep emotional desires to connect with another person.” That makes sense to me. The desire to express love, to feel loved in return, and to experience a deep connection with a partner is at the heart of a happy marriage.
  • Is romance overrated…dead?
    • TheUrbanDater |
      • Did Online Dating Kill Romance? – Remember the days when you’d look up to find a handsome stranger making eye contact with you across the room? Perhaps followed by a smile? The importance of body language was paramount when casually searching for potential partners. Nowadays the internet and online dating has changed all the rules. More and more people are swapping a glance across the room for a click of a mouse and romance is being somewhat eroded away with it.
    • SpouseDates.com |
      • How is romance overrated?  Romance is overrated in that it is expected to be a good foundation for great marriage.  Wrong.  Commitment is the solid ground upon which married love can be built.
      • Romance is like the icing on the cake.  Pile it on baby!  But don’t build your house on it.
  • Why romance is important
    • LoveFromLila | Why Being Romantic Is Important…  
      • People think with both their hearts and heads depending on the situation. In most situations, women think with their hearts which is why they are loving, caring and kindhearted. For women, the hearts tend to control the positive decisions and the head controls negative decisions. In the female world, the heart can take over the head. To do that, the heart needs to have enough power to do that. How can that happen? Love and Romance.
      • The heart collects all of those gestures of love and romance, stores them up and locks them away, ready to fight away logic.


Segment #2

  • How do you create a romantic scene for your partner?
    • JointArena | 10 Simple Ways to Make Your Relationship Magically Romantic  
      • Make the time at the end of the work-day when you first see one another extra special by giving each other a 10 second hug and kiss. You will both feel more deeply connected throughout the evening. Also remember to touch your partner affectionately throughout the day, not just when you want to be romantic.
      • Whenever you can, take the time to give your partner 100% of your attention when they want to talk to you. Put down the remote control or whatever you’re reading, face your partner and say “What would you like to talk about?” It will make your partner feel loved and important to you.
  • Why women should initiate romance
    • Relationship Therapy Blog |
      • Learn what he likes – The same thing stands for him. Know what makes him happy.   Please don’t buy him an expensive gift if he’s the frugal type. He won’t like it. Don’t take him to a fancy French restaurant if he’s a Burger kind of guy. It’s ok to take him there for your birthday, but don’t take him there for his birthday.  If he loves sports, then go to them with him.
  • 5 quick tips on how to build intimacy and romance
    • Digital Romance Tips | 5 Quick Tips on How to Build Intimacy in Your Relationship
      • Quick tip #1: Really listen to what your partner says, and ask follow-up questions to show you are engaged
      • Quick tip #2: Be transparent in your words and actions so your partner can always feel trust in you
      • Quick tip #3: Fun isn’t just for people dating; even mature relationships need infusions of fun times to help cement the intimacy
      • Quick tip #4: Learn effective means of communication, both verbal and non-verbal
      • Quick tip #5: Show appreciation and respect, using words and actions.


Final Thoughts:

  • Elijah’s Thoughts
  • Sarah’s Thoughts


In Closing

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Now go forth and continue to relate better to one another. We’ll talk soon.

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