0095 – The Real Reasons Why Couples Fight – Fight Week!

This week is all about conquering conflict, and today we going to understand why couples get into conflict in the first place

By the end of this episode:

  • The top 10 reasons why couples get into conflict in the first place

Describe the problem

…You get along great…except when you don’t. Sometimes conflict seems to arise out of nowhere, or sometimes you find yourselves fighting and re-hashing the same issues over and over. Today we’re looking at the top ten reasons couples have conflict…and maybe, with a little knowledge, you can avoid these same traps.

Segment #1

  1. 10. Social Media – Why did she ‘Like’ his picture on Facebook? Why is she chatting that guy up on Instagram all the time? Social media can sometimes connect us with someone who drives us away from our partner, causing conflict.
  2. 9. Extracurricular Activities – Playing soccer keeps you fit, spin class lets you keep up with the gals on a regular basis, but when that time interferes with you and your boo’s private time, there might be a fight on the horizon.
  3. 8. Work – Congratulations, you got a new promotion, and you worked your tail off for it. 60 hour weeks got you the title you always wanted, but if your partner feels neglected, there might not be a party waiting when you come home…
  4. 7. Chores – “If he would only do the dishes once in a while…”, “Ugh, why does she leave such a mess in the bathroom?!!” Sharing a space with your partner requires shared cleaning duties, and when one side isn’t holding up their side of the bargain, it’s fightin’ time.
  5. 6. Friends – Your best friend has had your back forever, you love your partner with all your heart, but when they get together it’s like cats and dogs. You can only ride the fence for so long before you get pulled into their conflict one way or another

Segment #2

  1. 5. Family – Your dad hates him, your mom wishes she’d just find another guys life to ruin, your parents are extra protective of you, but may be inadvertantly causing some strife between you and your partner…ok, maybe it’s on purpose too…
  2. 4. Kids – It’s late, you both have had a long day, and all you can think about is some of that good, sweet lovin when– “Can I sleep with you tonight mommy?”. Kids are adorable, until they reach cockblocking age…at birth.
  3. 3. Infidelity – Nothin get a fight goin like poking your thing somewhere you weren’t supposed to…don’t expect your partner to just let this go. Even though you brought this one on yourself, the fight might not be as one sided as you think…
  4. 2. Jealousy – “I see the way you look at him”, “She’d be all over you if you gave her a chance”. Keep fighting with your partner over what another person might want to do with them, and you might give them the perfect opportunity to do it

Final Thoughts:


#1 Money – The Notorious B.I.G. said it best, “First things first, I Poppa, freaks ALL the honies…”. He also said, “Mo Money, mo problems”. Couples just can’t seem to play nice when those clean crisp dollar bills are in the picture…making it the #1 reason that fights break out in relationships.


  • Elijah’s Thoughts
    • Get to the why, then try to solve
  • Sarah’s Thoughts

In Closing

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Until we meet again, keep striving to make every relationship you have the best it can possibly be, including the one with yourself. We’ll talk soon.

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