0093 – Love Language Week: How You Can Master Giving Words of Affirmation


How to know if you or your partner’s love language is words of affirmation, and how to show love to your partner this way.


Teaser Bullets

by the end of this episode you’ll learn:

  • …what Words of Affirmation is
  • how to know if you partner receive love this way
  • the number 1 tip to show your partner love through Words of Affirmation

Describe the problem

Segment #1


Quick review of love languages

How to know if this love language is yours or your partner’s:

    • 8. Definition:Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your partner’s love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to him or her. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends spirits skyward. Insults can leave your partner shattered and are not easily forgotten.” (http://personalitycafe.com/articles/112444-five-love-languages-explained.html)

How to know…

    • 7. What does your partner complain about most often? E.g. You never tell me you love me anymore or Why don’t you ever want to talk about us?
    • 6. How does your partner typically show love to others? E.g. He or she is the person who is always encouraging friends to get out there and try again, showering people with compliments, or verbalizing to the people she loves just how much she loves and cares for them.
    • 5. What does your partner request most often? E.g. Tell me what you’re thinking, why do you like me?, how do I look?, might even specifically ask to talk about feelings for each other

Segment #2

“I appreciate you”

How to show…

    • 4. There are lots of ways to tell your partner how you care…through being encouraging, through simply being kind, to even just humbly making requests instead of demands.
    • 3. Tell your partner often you love them.
    • 2. Set a reminder in your phone, or make a note in your calendar to give your partner one genuine compliment every day for a month…and see what happens


Final Thoughts:

Number One Tip: Be brave, allow yourself to be vulnerable…and try to avoid harsh words said in anger. Lots of people struggle with expressing themselves verbally…but if this is your partner’s love language, you’re going to have to find some courage to do it anyway. SAYING things out loud is much harder than cleaning the kitchen or writing a sweet note, but the reward is greater than the chance for rejection.


  • Elijah’s Thoughts
  • Sarah’s Thoughts


Show Close

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