0125 – 8 Ways to You Can Be a Better Lover Today


We’re talking about how to improve your skills in (and out of) the bedroom

By the end of this episode:

  • you’ll learn 8 ways to improve your sex game


Segment #1

  1. Know your own body–get to know what you like and don’t like at a base level. It’ll help you teach your partner how to better please you
  2. But also, be willing to learn new things about yourself–you may have a spot, a kink or a position you never knew you had. Teach your partner the basics, then learn to improvise together
  3. Try everything twice–not sure you liked it the first time? Try it one more time, just to be sure.
  4. Leave shame and judgment at the door–both men and women can be terrible critics both of themselves and each other when it comes to sex. Part of it is societal, part of it might be related to your upbringing, part of it might be related to how you view your own body…leave it at the door to whatever room you’re bangin’ in

Segment #2

  1. Learn to self-soothe–being naked with someone means you’re vulnerable with someone…and that can be scary or can cause anxiety (or you might be carrying guilt and shame for any number of reasons)…don’t rely on your partner to make you feel better, you have to learn to do that for yourself
  2. Educate yourself–on anatomy, on biology, on how stuff actually works
  3. Take your time and enjoy yourself–not every session has to be a rush to the big O. Don’t rush the foreplay and take the time to enjoy each little moment that’s not necessarily


Final Thoughts:

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  • Elijah’s Thoughts
  • Sarah’s Thoughts


In Closing

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Until we meet again, keep striving to make every relationship you have the best it can possibly be, including (and especially) the one with yourself. We’ll talk soon.

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