0032 – Ten Relationship Deal Breakers That End Relationships Immediately


“In this episode…”

…we’re talking all about dealbreakers


Teaser Bullets

by the end of this episode you’ll learn:

  • …what they are
  • when they can crop up
  • common dealbreakers in dating

Describe the problem

…Admit it…we all have “the list.” The one we keep in the back of our minds that automatically mean “no, thanks,” in a relationship. Dealbreakers can range from the petty to the serious, and in some ways, help us to narrow our choices. But are they always useful in dating and relationships? And how do we know if we’re cutting out people who might otherwise be a good fit because of our “list?”


Definition: deal-break·er


noun: dealbreaker


  1. (in business and politics) a factor or issue that, if unresolved during negotiations, would cause one party to withdraw from a deal



What is a Dealbreaker

“Identifying dealbreakers is very important, as it is a good idea to know where you are willing to negotiate and where you cannot back down.

In some cases, a dealbreaker is an issue at the outset…[but] a dealbreaker can also emerge in an established relationship. In some cases, one partner simply grows irritated by something which wasn’t an issue before, and in other instances, people overlook an issue in the hopes that they can get used to it or reform the other person. As the relationship progresses, the dealbreaker can become a larger and larger problem, eventually spelling the end of the partnership.”

Dealbreakers vs. Red flags? [discussion]

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Common dealbreakers:

  1. Smoking, drinking, drugs
  2. Work
  3. Children
  4. Cheating
  5. Money
  6. Lying
  7. Neatness or Messiness
  8. Lack of commitment
  9. Selfishness
  10. Sex



Controlling behavior

Abuse (or hints of abuse)


Lack of ambition

Lack of passion




Not-so-common (and maybe-shouldn’t be) dealbreakers:

  1. Physical attributes
  2. Family
  3. Divorce


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In Closing

In closing, on behalf of myself, Elijah R. Young, and everyone involved in bringing this show to your ears, we hope we’ve made your relationship better today than it was yesterday. Now go forth and relate to one another…we’ll talk soon.

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