0063 – What is the Proper Etiquette for a Threesome?

 

How do you get into a Threesome? Yep, we’re going there.

Teaser Bullets

by the end of this episode you’ll learn:

• How do you ask for a threesome
• How to have a successful threesome
• How to turn down a threesome
• Top Threesome mistakes

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Segment #1

• How do you ask for a threesome
  • Sexpressionists | Threesomes: How Do You Ask?
    • You could also take it in steps. Go dancing. Let your wife dance with another guy. Later, talk about how it made both of you feel. If it was positive, gradually move to more adventurous activities- maybe some touching and kissing. The idea is to test the waters slowly, then have an open, honest discussion about your feelings after each step.
  • HelloBeautiful | Professional Athletes Tell Their Dirtiest Stories: “I Didn’t Catch Scurvy, So Whatever”
    • How do you even go about asking a woman for a threesome – Ask if she thinks that over there girl is cute. Then ask her ‘would she do it to her ?’ and see what she says.  If she would and she’s that type of chick, let her go approach the other girl and see if she can seal the deal.
• How to turn down a threesome
  • The Stir.CafeMom.com | http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/149422/how_to_politely_turn_down
    • Show excitement. After the smile, merge into excitement saying something like, Wow, that sounds incredible! and then smile a naughty type of smile. The person flattered you by asking, so now you return the favor by flattering the asker by hinting that you think the experience would be incredible.
• How to have a successful threesome
  • Black Girl Nerds | Threesomes, Relationships, Polygamy, Oh My!
    • Talk honestly about your feelings – If before or after you need reassurance, tell him! This can be scary, no matter how pretty or secure they tell us we should be in our relationship! If you feel she got too much attention during the threesome, tell him! I still have moments of jealousy and hurt even after 6 years. When i need reassurance from my partners, even if they only had a more casual encounter, i get it! It makes me feel better, eases my pain and makes me relaxed. Get the reassurance you need and make sure he is providing it.

Segment #2

• Top Threesome mistakes
  • LovePanky.com | Threesome Tips – 20 Things to Know Before Entering One
    • Don’t pick a friend. Avoid bringing a good friend to bed. The best person to have a threesome with is someone you know well, but preferably someone from another area code, or on a vacation spot.
  •  Ebony.com | 3 Tips for Threesomes
    • A threesome isn’t a free-for-all, universally accepted sex act based on boundaries and principles everyone knows and agrees upon. Each couple and situation is unique, and it is important to establish clear boundaries and expectations. As with everything related to sex, communication is essential. Be completely honest about what you hope to get out of the experience, what you’re comfortable with, and what you absolutely will not tolerate.  
  • North By Northwestern | Tips for a drama-free threesome
    • Be careful when couples are involved. If you’re in a relationship with someone you truly care about, adding another person to the mix is likely to make things messy. Asking if you can bring someone else into the bedroom is likely to raise all sorts of questions for your significant other: “Am I not good enough?” “Does my partner find him/her more attractive than me?” “Is this a prelude to my partner saying that they want to see other people?” “Is my partner gay?” Even if the answer to all of these questions is no, you’ve still created a situation where your partner is self-conscious and not very likely to enjoy themself. If you decide to go through with it, be prepared for some jealously and the possibility that it could ruin your relationship.
    • Be prepared for the fallout. When the sex is over, the situation can get awkward. Hopefully you’ve already established who goes and who stays, so the extra person (or two) can excuse themselves and make a quick exit. If you’re in a relationship, wait until the other person is gone and then assure your significant other how much you love and appreciate him or her. They might be feeling a little unwanted, so make it clear that you care about them first and foremost.  

 

Final Thoughts:

• Elijah’s Thoughts
• Sarah’s Thoughts

 

In Closing

In closing, on behalf of my fantastic co-host, Sarah J. Storer, author of “How to be Dumped: The Definitive Breakup Guide” I want to thank you for spending time with us today, now let’s continue the conversation at relationspodcast.com/[ShowNumber] and:

 

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